These Times Are Made for Misfits

#2. Action Confidence

Inspiration. Image by Gapingvoid featured in Psychology Today.

If you want to be a misfit who gets the upper hand in life, you must have a spiritual compass, and from the edges of the system, you will be able to see what is on the horizon and collectively discern what is needed to meet the challenges ahead.

Think different, act different, and make a difference!

I. The Psychological Perspective of Action Confidence

Confidence. Image by Gapingvoid featured in Psychology Today

You’re more likely to act yourself into feeling than feeling yourself into action.” — Jerome Bruner, Harvard psychologist.

Motivation and momentum are two highly connected concepts. You cannot have either of these without first acting in a goal-directed way. You can’t wait until you feel inspired to act. Motivation doesn’t just happen; instead, it is a reaction to intention and integrity.

Getting creative insights regularly is something you can personally master. Psychologists call this “epiphany ability.” Like motivation, inspiration is not something you should wait for. Instead, it is something you need to design for and actively seek it!

Your desires are the product of your behavior, not the other way around. Therefore, you can train your desires. You can train yourself to want success, happiness, health, and deep connections.

Personal confidence comes from making progress toward goals that are far bigger than your present capabilities.” — Dan Sullivan.

Confidence is a direct reflection of past performance. Hence, yesterday is more important than today. Luckily, today is tomorrow’s yesterday. So, even if your confidence today isn’t optimal, your confidence tomorrow is still within your control.

“It’s easier to hold to your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold to them 98 percent of the time… Decide what you stand for. And then stand for it all the time.” — Clayton Christensen, Harvard Business Professor.

In psychology, the scientific term for willpower is “decision fatigue,” which means that you haven’t truly decided about what you want… And as a result, you’re forced to sit and think about what you want. .. This is really bad for willpower and ultimately leads to people falling prey to the negative influences in their environment.

Motivation is the byproduct of goal-oriented action. Inspiration and “epiphanies” are the byproduct of courageous and bold action. Confidence is the byproduct of successful behavior, even if in small “baby” doses. And the decision is the antidote to decision fatigue. Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D.

II. The Deeper Structure of Action Confidence

When we look at where we are coming from when we step into new territories and act with courage, we see qualities that might characterize new leadership capacities.

Action Confidence. Animated scribing — by Jayce Pei Yu Lee

The precondition for action is operating from a place of not knowing, from genuine curiosity and inquiry. Operating from an open mind means developing the capacity to see what was previously unseen, including disconnects and shadow, and to perceive the self and the system differently. What is the capacity that enables this kind of inquiry? Open-minded humility.

The seed for action comes from opening the heart and being touched by the world. Rather than getting lost in your own emotions, you use the heart to tune into the world. And if you really connect, that in itself becomes a source of energy that allows you to do something that no one thought was possible. The precondition to do something magical or impossible is the opening of the heart — having a genuine social field experience where you connect with someone or something that isn’t you that begins to activate another level of inspiration and commitment. What is the quality that activates this connection? Open-hearted vulnerability.

Somewhat paradoxically, the movement into action comes from letting go of pre-conceived ideas about what action should look like and becoming an instrument for emerging possibility. The thing about being an instrument is that you are holding something you don’t know. You don’t know what is emerging, but you are committed to holding its coming-into-being anyway. Open will emerges from stillness and manifests as the movement from sensing to realizing the future that calls us forth. What is it that allows us to let go and let come? Open-willed surrender.

Real action confidence is about having an intimate sense of connection with the field of the emerging future. Sensing and feeling the resonance of that space of future possibility in the current moment. That’s really what is guiding you. The original definition of presencing is sensing and actualizing the future that wants to emerge. Sensing and actualizing are intertwined but distinct elements. Sensing is going into resonance with the field of the future: feeling it. Actualizing is about turning yourself into a vehicle to bring that possibility into reality — embodying it now. Action confidence is these two things together, sensing and embodying the field of the future now. It emerges in situations where we feel the sharp boundary between the inner and the outer beginning to collapse.

This discernment cannot be developed in isolation. It needs a container. And the container for supporting the process of waking up to a new level of aspiration and agency is the social field. When we activate the social field, we support people to develop trust in acting from a place of humility, vulnerability, and surrendering to what wants to emerge. Trust does not grow because you tell me this or that — those are just words. It grows when we feel a social field that immediately activates a trust that we are not alone.

The above mapping of the deeper territory of action confidence can serve as a helpful tool for leaders and change-makers to design interventions and create holding spaces that allow for the four qualities outlined above to be activated and cultivated. Learning how to create these conditions face to face and also at scale globally is one of the most important dimensions of transformational leadership work today.



Executive & Team Coach & Mentor. Cultural Transformation Change Agent & Consultant. Twitter: @hborgesg. Instagram: @heboga. FB: helio.borges.35. Uriji: @hborges

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Helio Borges

Executive & Team Coach & Mentor. Cultural Transformation Change Agent & Consultant. Twitter: @hborgesg. Instagram: @heboga. FB: helio.borges.35. Uriji: @hborges